Place a camera outside the parents' bedroom door and one in the children's room. Also, install motion alarms outside the children's room and outside the parents' room. Connect these to two video monitors showing what happens and two green/red lights (LED) indicating if there's movement where there shouldn't be.H Harald Blåtumme said:
For burglary and fire alarms, place a siren and blinking light inside the soundproofed room so you don't miss any alarms.
This way, you'll find out, for example, if the children can't sleep and go to the parents' bedroom.
Hmm... haven't you just defined a potential solution to a non-existent problem?spikplanka said:
H Harald Blåtumme said:
1) How should..H Harald Blåtumme said:
2) Solution
3) But How should.. is not a problem.
Maybe a button next to the bedroom door with a doorbell is enough?
Yep, I'm with you there!
Otherwise, the idea of a car, motorhome is an okay solution. Simply move the activities to places where they can't disturb.
Some spontaneous thoughts. I haven't tested all of this.
If you're going to move anyway, the simplest thing to do is to look at the floor plan before buying. Is there a suitable bedroom that is sufficiently isolated? Preferably not one located above where the children are expected to be. It could be good in a few years when the teenagers don't want to be disturbed by mom and dad either.
Most measures require space, so if you're willing to renovate to achieve the right sound level, it's probably not bad to have slightly larger rooms, including ceiling height. The major insulation manufacturers have examples of wall constructions and how much they dampen - here is one of them.
Once you have found a house, it might be worth starting with - when the children are not home - testing how much and where the sound is, and thinking about why. It's incredibly tedious to spend energy, time, money, and space on improving a wall, for example, if the real problem is the ventilation.
If ventilation is an issue and you're willing to redo it, an alternative might be to install, for example, a mini-ftx directly in the outer wall, allowing you to remove the usual internal ventilation duct.
How should it look afterward? Sound absorbers can look a bit odd (especially as it's better if they're not flush against the wall/ceiling), but for instance, heavier fabrics hanging a bit away from the wall can be an option (kalmuk is apparently popular in this context).
If you're going to move anyway, the simplest thing to do is to look at the floor plan before buying. Is there a suitable bedroom that is sufficiently isolated? Preferably not one located above where the children are expected to be. It could be good in a few years when the teenagers don't want to be disturbed by mom and dad either.
Most measures require space, so if you're willing to renovate to achieve the right sound level, it's probably not bad to have slightly larger rooms, including ceiling height. The major insulation manufacturers have examples of wall constructions and how much they dampen - here is one of them.
Once you have found a house, it might be worth starting with - when the children are not home - testing how much and where the sound is, and thinking about why. It's incredibly tedious to spend energy, time, money, and space on improving a wall, for example, if the real problem is the ventilation.
If ventilation is an issue and you're willing to redo it, an alternative might be to install, for example, a mini-ftx directly in the outer wall, allowing you to remove the usual internal ventilation duct.
How should it look afterward? Sound absorbers can look a bit odd (especially as it's better if they're not flush against the wall/ceiling), but for instance, heavier fabrics hanging a bit away from the wall can be an option (kalmuk is apparently popular in this context).
Where there is a will, there is a way.
Can't you cover them in textiles?K krfsm said:
TS has specifically stated that she wants to be close to the children and does not have time to go away.H Harald Blåtumme said:
That is outside the valid solution framework.
Can't you just be open with your children? My parents had no problem with my sister and me hearing them when we were small, and it wasn't something we thought was weird but rather part of the norm. As we got a bit older, we were just happy that they had and have a great sex life. This led to my sister and I always being very open when we reached the age of dating. Sex is meant to be enjoyed, and I don't think your kids are harmed by you having sex as long as they know it's sex and not abuse 😉. Otherwise, as others have already written, a separate bedroom, rugs on walls and floors.L Lexii said:
The risk is that the children talk to teachers, neighbors, etc., who might have a different narrow view on sex or misunderstand. Especially when both moaning and spanking are involved. It can take time to explain to such people, and there are better things to spend your time on.4774 said:
The social services are particularly filled with tricky people.
But if the kids are to be shielded from the parents' activities, there are two options.
1) Create a "dungeon" in, for example, the basement, shielded and soundproofed. Maybe the one who wants to get attention can ring a doorbell? Haven't tested or needed that doorbell option.
2) Drive a bit away with the car or other vehicle to secluded places. Haven't tested or needed this either, but it can probably work.
What works depends on the children's age and whether supervision is needed when the parents are busy with their own activities. No big deal. Be a little creative and it will work out.
1) Create a "dungeon" in, for example, the basement, shielded and soundproofed. Maybe the one who wants to get attention can ring a doorbell? Haven't tested or needed that doorbell option.
2) Drive a bit away with the car or other vehicle to secluded places. Haven't tested or needed this either, but it can probably work.
What works depends on the children's age and whether supervision is needed when the parents are busy with their own activities. No big deal. Be a little creative and it will work out.
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No problem. You just get them all done one after the other. Smack, smack, smack, and possibly smack. The same the next week. Remodeling the house for a temporary problem seems unnecessary. How has TS planned to keep the children in the dark this time, when they ask, "Mom! Why are you hammering here? Why? What is it going to be?" It could be a pedagogical challenge 😱K krfsm said:
They are probably not old enough to understand construction projects yet. It's more convenient to do it now than later.Intet said:
Otherwise, you can simply say that "Daddy and mommy need to improve the bedroom so it becomes nicer and mom can sleep undisturbed" ....
"Sleep undisturbed." Yet another lie to feed the innocent little ones. 🥶They are probably not old enough to understand construction projects yet. More timely to do it now than later.
Otherwise, you can simply say that "Dad and mom need to improve the bedroom so it looks nicer and mom can sleep undisturbed" ....